It’s not what happens to YOU, but how YOU react to the situation that counts. (especially confrontations & arguments)

(How to deal with people who verbally attack you without warning)

There will be many many times in life when things out of the blue will happen that is out of your control. When people will try to catch you off guard & try to start an argument, in other words verbally attack you. Sometimes, if you over react to what has happened, YOU will be the one who looks bad. 

There will always be people on this earth who want to bring you down to their level, make you look like an idiot, lose your cool. They do this for many different reasons, usually people like this make excuses to justify what they do, so they have self entitlement to shoot their mouth off.

Usually people that try to catch you off guard with what they say to you, they are usually saying that about themselves.

 In situations like this, having these attributes will greatly help;

• Self Control
• Controlling YOUR emotions (in particular your temper)
• Don’t argue back, let them talk themselves out. (You can’t argue with someone who doesn’t say anything or argue back)
• Thinking of the big picture, what the ramifications of reacting (or over-reacting) could be
• Not sinking down to the other persons level. (which is probably what they want you to do) If you go down to that persons level, they win & you will end up losing your composure & they won’t back off.

This is a very important quote, & life lesson. There will be times in life when you will be caught off guard when an incident happens, or will involve yourself. If you can identify this, have situational awareness of what’s going on before things escalate, the majority of times you will be okay. 

If you react badly to the situation, whether it be out of self preservation, instant reaction, snapping, not having a chance to properly think it through. You could come off as the bad person , the one who is blamed for what has happened, or justify why the person did what they did in the first place.

Always; 

• Think first, Breathe.
• If you are going to lose your cool, even if you are right, be the bigger person – walk away. 
• Use silence, it is better to say nothing, then nothing can be used against you, you wont regret saying the wrong thing

Best Wishes For The Challenges YOU Are Facing, Or Will Face In The Future

Never Give Up

Always Be Positive 

There Is Light At The End Of The Tunnel !

• “He with whom neither slander that gradually soaks into the mind, nor statements that startle like a wound in the flesh, are successful may be called intelligent indeed.” – Confucius
• Good Motivation For;

#Longevity #StrengthOfCharacter #Attitude #Discipline #Adversity